We Love And Marriage is more than just a passion project to me, I believe it is what God is calling me to do. I have gone through things in past relationships like most of you, that have taught us loads about how we ought to treat ourselves, how we need to treat our partners, and how we will like our spouses to treat us. Personally, I know all those past experiences; good, bad, happy, sad, ugly, indifferent or other,…
I would be lying if I said that since I have been married to my husband that I have never found another man attractive. Likewise, I am certain he has found other women attractive. After all, as humans we are the pinnacle of God’s creations, and our Father makes beautiful things. Some of us have a propensity to stare, we let our eyes linger on a beautiful face, or we stare hard at an attractive physique giving our minds time…
If things are not going well in your marriage I encourage you to not give up. Instead; do more praying, more reading your Bible, more fasting, more listening for the Holy Spirit’s voice, and a whole lot more behaving like love towards your spouse. Corinthians 13:4-7 – Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of…
Argument, heated discussion, fight, disagreement, debate, dispute, squabble, tiff, spat; these are just a few names couples use to describe the type of conversation had when not seeing eye-to-eye. In other words, when there is a conflict. Conflict is a good thing in a marriage, it means that we are communicating and trying to resolve our issues. When and where conflict becomes a bad thing, is when our words turn into weapons. Weapons that are no longer used to prove/defend…
Polyamorous – What? … God is jealous for me. I am jealous for my husband, and my husband is jealous for me. To anyone that thinks my way of thinking is archaic; when did monogamy become old-fashion? When did intentionally sharing your spouse with someone else by being in an open marriage, throuple, quad, or more mean you are an evolved human whom is above jealousy? Exodus 34:14 Amplified Bible—for you shall not worship any other god; for the LORD,…
Touch is important to us as humans; from the time we are born till the day we die. Babies need to be held, children need to be hugged and as adults, we need to be shown physical affection from our mates. Touch is necessary to aid in brain development, in forming attachments, in releasing stress, in relieving anxiety, to combat loneliness and the list goes on. The continued growth I experience in my marriage is attributed to God’s hand on…
God cannot bless anything you keep. There are some needs that can only be fulfilled by God, and if we are looking to have those needs met by our spouse, friends, job or other earthly things, we are going to be disappointed. There will always be a part of us wanting more, a part of us that feel like something is missing. When we choose to get married, whether it takes place inside a church or not, giving our marriages…
Saying ‘I’m sorry’ is not easy for a lot of people. If you are one of those people, keep in mind that practice makes perfect. We all make mistakes, because we are human. Apologizing when you are wrong shows your partner that you value him/her enough to confess when you make mistakes, it also shows that you do not think you are more important than your spouse; therefore, pulling you closer together. Say “I’m sorry”, when you are wrong, and…
Matthew 11: 27-30 “27 My Father has given me all things. …no one knows the Father except the Son and those to whom the Son chooses to reveal him.28 “Come to me, all of you who are tired from carrying heavy loads, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke and put it on you, …because I am gentle and humble in spirit; and you will find rest. 30 For the yoke I will give you is easy, and the load I will put…
What’s Your Love Language? More Important: What’s Your Spouse’s?
Posted on July 11, 2020The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman has changed my relationship with my husband John. If you’ve read my Why We Love and Marriage piece, you’ll recall I listed this book as one of the tools we used to better our marriage. This book is based on the idea that we all have specific ways we like to receive love. Most spouses like to receive love differently from their partner; however, being unaware of this, they show love to their…
Are you and your spouse just married? No, I don’t mean if you just got married. Are you doing life together? Is your marriage a verb or a noun? Do you enjoy each other’s company; do you share laughs, compliments and express gratitude to your partner with words or deeds, or even better, both words and deeds? Being “Just Married” means that your marriage isn’t doing what it’s meant to do. (Glorify God) Being “Just Married” means your marriage isn’t…